In gripping novel Anna Quindlen's "Black and Blue," a woman tries to escape from her violent husband that is a policeman. She lives in fear that he did with the same tools he uses to find the track criminals.
The case of Drew Peterson, a police officer in Bollingbrook, Illinois, is still under investigation is the disappearance of his fourth wife Stacy. His third wife, whose body was exhumed for further tests showed signs of murder. Members of the police to say that the man abused theWomen. Peterson says he loves Stacy and she wants to come home. Authorities have never located Stacy's body. No one has heard of her.
One of the first signs of future abuse is financial control. A man who controls the purse, refusing to share financial information with his wife, but expects that they spent for every choice and every cent account.
Many women suffer in silence, said that her husband is the control of behaviorPersonality quirk.They can still access to joint finances, mobility and sound decisions to buy. They are frustrated by the attitude of her husband and behavior, not living with a gnawing sense of anxiety.
Financial abuse is different.
It is designed to isolate the behavior of a woman in a state of complete financial dependence. Most importantly, remember what they say about the financial abuse is that the perpetrators do not get out of control. He may be a drop in tohas to change its behavior in order to adapt our social conditions. He is charming and persuasive, but his goal is to isolate his partner and their dependence on him total.He make a decision about his partner's life by removing their ability to make decisions, control access to money and may be around.
Financial abuse often leads to physical abuse as well. It comes in all age groups, education levels, ethnic backgrounds and financial levels.The rich public figure who lives in the biggest house in the best area is considered likely to be a victim of financial abuse than the poorest women in the most difficult part of the city.
Where do you draw the line?
You can somebody you suspect to know is financially abused and feel helpless. After her husband went on a rampage in a physical dispute over money, was a local celebrities rushed to hospital with multiple fractures. He is the CEO of one of the countrylargest financial institutions.
After a brief mention in the local newspaper, the story disappeared from all the police reports and press archive. This incident is not an isolated incident, it happens more often than we think.
On the other hand, you may not know that your neighbor, friend, acquaintance or a financial hostage, because they will not say. You may know her husband, and never assume that one thing. He is not out of control or under the influence of drugs or alcohol. We couldLabel its behavior difficult, eccentric or unpleasant, but we do not intervene
The thing to remember about financial abuse is that it works on a continuum of emotional, verbal and physical abuse eventually. The perpetrator has to control the goal.
Signs of Financial Abuse
Controlling the finances.
Withholding money or credit cards.
Give an allowance.
Making every penny you make. Spend
Theft by you or under yourMoney.
Use your assets for personal gain.
Withholding basic needs (food, clothing, medicines) accommodations.
Prevent you from working or choosing your own career.
To sabotage your work (what do you miss work or call constantly, etc.)
If something about your relationship with your husband or partner, you can talk for scarring and need, you can get help by contacting the following:
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or go tonrcdv.org.
feminist.org/911/crisis.html - This site lists the number and siting of domestic violence hotlines for the 50 states.
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